How do you want to die?

Death is too often a scary, chaotic and isolating event.

It doesn’t have to be that way.

A Thoughtful Death aims to change modern death culture by helping people celebrate their unique lives in ways that lead to thoughtful death experiences and meaningful grief rituals. By being honest about what’s important to us, planning ahead and tapping into community, we can nurture deaths that better reflect our values.

A grey cement wall with gaps that reveal bricks.
Neshia, a brown skinned woman with shoulder length black locs, smiles at the camera. She is wearing glasses, orange and gold dangly earrings, a white and blue striped blouse, blue jeans and a watch. A brick wall is behind her.

Photo by: Steven Zhang

Talofa lava! My name is Neshia.

I’m a licensed mental health counselor turned deathcare worker. People ask me all the time why I choose to work with death and grief. The answer is this: from a young age, I knew that I and the people I love will die. I want the dying, the ultimate transition, to be as special as the relationships themselves.

Deathcare is for everyone at every stage of life.

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    End-of-Life Preparation

    Preparing for your death ahead of time allows you and your community to focus on what matters most when you need it the most: being together at the end of your life. Let’s document your wishes for a thoughtful death.

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  • A poppy with bright orange petals and a yellow center. The flower is open wide but the petals are visibly withering.

    Obituaries & Eulogies

    Breathing, let alone finding the right words to describe someone, can feel impossible after a recent death. Let me do the writing so that you can catch your breath.

    How to Start
  • A field of of tall grasses and red poppies. In the background are trees and distant houses. The sky is cloudy with some blue showing in the middle and a clear full rainbow stretches above the field.

    Celebrations & Ceremonies

    Do you want one final hurrah with your favorite people before you die? A memorial for a community member? A special ritual to mark the anniversary of a death? This is a great opportunity to honor your life and culture.

    Let's Create Together

Let’s Connect

Email
neshia@athoughtfuldeath.com

Phone
(206) 866-5455

Where I Serve
South Seattle + surrounding areas as well as virtual options